critical qualities of human beings
Iranian Etiquette
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Iranian Etiquette
Ladies and Gentlemen,
Etiquette is one of the critical qualities of human beings, and there is nowhere that is better demonstrated than in Iran. A country that boasts of early civilization and extensive influence in other countries, it offers a model of the way that humans should relate. Etiquette is critical to help people to interact and cooperate in conducting their business to ensure harmony. Being an Iranian native with adequate knowledge of the culture I will explore the basic communication and interaction etiquette that marks a desirable engagement.
Etiquette in Iran is based on the taarof tradition of acknowledging and appreciating others. Iranians are always conscious and recognizant of the people that are around them to ensure that they adequately relate and interact with them. It is common for the locals to offer assistant and favors, such as to buy food in a restaurant or pay the commuter fare. At the door, they also prefer to let others pass through before them.
Kindness is associated with an essential communication code that ensures respect and reflects humbleness. At the door, the words to use are ‘shoma befarmayeen’ (please go ahead) to signal that one is courteous and ready to uphold the tradition. When declining an offer to pay a bill, the word to use is ‘nemishe’ (not possible), while if it is a food offer, the best way to decline is by saying ‘merci’ to mean ‘oh, no thank you.’ However, since the Iranian people are used to being generous, the offer may be insisted in which case the recipient should accept, or they will appear as offensive and proud.
Etiquette in Iran is also focused on the mostly formal interaction, especially in public. Physical contact, handshake, and embracing are highly restricted and outright forbidden among people of the opposite gender. Maintain distance is highly recommended, at least a meter for the same gender and 3 meters when talking to women. Particular, there are different interaction areas for men and women and which should be highly respected for the people of the opposite gender to avoid offending others and violating fundamental socio-religious guidelines.
Importantly, it is insulting and uncouth to sit facing away from another person. Whenever possible, it is vital to avoid showing other person ones back. However, if it is unavoidable, then, it should be preceded by an apology and an establishment of rapport. The measure is aimed at promoting interaction and high spirits. It is also considered rude to stare or gaze on another person, especially of the opposite gender. While complimenting other people’s possessions is common elsewhere, in Iranian it is not ideal or it results in the person being given the item because they are considered to like it.
Greetings are a critical aspect of any encounter. They should be age-appropriate and should begin with older people as a sign of respect. The ideal salutation should be ‘Salaam, man [your name] hastam. Az didan-e shoma khoshbakhtam!’ to mean ‘Hello, I am [your name]. Nice to meet you! It is also paramount and courteous to excuse oneself if leave-taking, by saying khoda hafez – “May God protect you.” Adhering to the guidelines is essential to support and enable integration with others, especially strangers, because it creates a positive relationship.
I have presented critical aspects of the Iranian etiquette. The society is well mannered to ensure the appropriate interaction and collaboration. I focused on principles of communication and contact with others for a fulfilling experience. However, note that the aspects I mentioned are not exclusive as there are many other essential aspects of the Iranian culture. The best way to have a fuller experience is to visit the country and experience first-hand the hospitality of the locals and share in some of their etiquette.